let me tell you how gross it is to say what women are deserving of being ‘real women’ and those who are not when you post tits and ass for days so you can have a plethora of vulgar material to whack it to when your life is boring and devoid of meaningful shit to do with your time…
why thank youu <3
Photoshoot from last weekend with Kevin Wilford :)
Dress from Forever21+
Location: Aruba, One Happy Island (North Coast)
Photocredit: KW Photography
(Unfortunately there was littering)
trigger warning: disordered eating / eating disorders, food, emetophobia / vomit, transmisogyny / misogyny, ableism, fat shaming / sizeism / fat hatred, heterosexism, dehumanization, racism, abuse, gaslighting
Ok, so i’m not trying to get you to pity me, but I felt the need to address this. I’m a size 0-2 (depends on the store), and I weigh less than 100 pounds. I eat what I want, exercise regularly, participate in PE, and my doctors say I am at a healthy weight for my height (i’m barely 5 feet). I constantly get called anorexic behind my back, when in reality I am very healthy. I eat veggies, fruit, protein, all that good stuff. But I also eat cakes, cookies, snickers, candies, ice cream, etc. And no, I do not throw it all up. It’s just the way I am, I was born with this body type. But something I’ve been noticing on Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter, and in real life, is that when people are trying to defend and comfort someone more curvy, often times we just insult people who are slim. Sometimes that evolves into stereotyping people who are slim to be anorexic, ugly, and just disgusting. Now, don’t get me wrong, I have absolutely nothing against people with curves. I think everyone is beautiful, but this just pisses me off so much. I mean, I’m starting to feel bad about being slim! What I want everyone reading this to remember is that
- not all slim people have an eating disorder
- never insult another group of people to defend another
- except all body types
- there is such a thing as skinny shaming, and it needs to stop
-Kate (christmasinajar)for further reading on this topic: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dana-oliver/skinny-shaming_b_3506313.html#slide=1597436
MOTHERFUCKING THANK YOU
WEIGHT SHAMING CAN GO BOTH WAYS
Things that does not have a “special size”:
- Eating disorder
First, off, we need to talk about the cissexism and transmisogyny involved in the “real women have curves and breasts” comments. I defer to trans women on this, but I think those are the real, harmful, oppressive problems that arise when we talk about the ways in which people combat and react to fat shaming (and it erases fat trans women at the same time). We need to knock it off with those comments, fellow cis, fat women.
Secondly, the statement that “weight shaming can go both ways” is bullshit. It sounds too similar to when people say things like, “But, racism goes both ways! But, sexism goes both ways!” No, it doesn’t cut equally both ways because for that to be the case, fat people would have to be on the same sociopolitical footing as thin people (as fat and thin people and keeping in mind other identities), and that simply isn’t the case from where I’m sitting.
I’m sure that interpersonal prejudice is unpleasant. I’m sure white people hate when I tell them they’re bland and pasty. I’m sure men hate it when I tell them they take up too much (figurative) space. And, I’m sure thin people hate it when I side-eye them or regard them with caution. But, fat people face real, systemic marginalization because we are fat that thin people, generally speaking, do not contend with (in addition to interpersonal prejudice).
I’m all for talking about oppressive body policing, but I’m not here for these false equivalencies or skipping right over the transmisogyny to complain about thin shaming.
^^^ Reblogging for trollny-stark’s above commentary. ^^^
My additional thoughts below, but reminder that first I don’t personally experience transmisogyny and I receive thin privilege, so I definitely defer to people who do experience transmisogyny and don’t have thin privilege.
There are absolutely oppressive things going on in these images and in some of the experiences the OP talked about, for sure. But it’s not thin shaming or anti-thinness. No. All this “women = boobs” stuff is suuuper misogynystic especially transmisogynistic, cissexist, it can be ableist, it’s talked about in relation to what men want so it’s heterosexist as fuck too… calling people who are involved with thin women “dogs” and calling these thin women “bones” is objectifying and dehumanizing and misogynistic, ditto with “curves” as the description of the more “ideal” woman. That first image looks like there might be some abusive stuff happening, body policing, definitely some misogyny, possible gaslighting. Calling thin people disgusting for their thinness can definitely be ableist as fuck in the case of eating disorders, illnesses, etc, and can intersect with many other oppressions too. And so on.
Basically, there are very real ways that thin people can experience many various oppressions, including simultaneous to comments about their thinness. But this is not thin shaming. This is those other oppressions. Which btw fat people can also experience in intersecting ways, and since fatness and people who are fat are actively and systemically marginalized as trollny says above, these oppressions intersecting with others’ hatred of their fatness therefore creates even more marginalization.
tl;dr - Thin people are not shamed and marginalized for being thin, but out of other oppressions. Fat people are shamed and marginalized for being fat, in addition to other oppressions.
SHAMING NOT ALLOWED
wow thank you <3 i never think of myself that way :D
im so bad at taking compliments